When it was over, she said, "We need to find a new show." I was all for that, but there are two major obstacles to that.
- Family viewing is difficult. There's not much that is truly family-friendly.
- Add to that that we are on the East coast, with no DVR. That means that the first prime-time show doesn't even begin until 8:00pm and the last isn't over until 11:00 pm (I should have added that to the surprising facts about myself, but that might actually be changing soon. Very soon.).
It was a good time to have a heart to heart, and we did. I did realize that she's growing up. Along with the shaved legs and mascaraed eyelashes, which I started doing even earlier than she did, I know that by her age, I was watching more adult movies and TV shows as well.
I did quickly correct the assumption that just because she watched TV shows or movies with mature content, that did not make her mature. I also told her that she was going to have to learn to assert her independence, because very very soon (too too soon), her peers were going to be doing other things that they think will make them more mature, such as smoking and drinking.
My DARE graduate said, "But that's stupid. That's against the law. This is just a show."
I have loosened restrictions on reading, and I know that some of what she reads dips into typical high school behavior, but I also know it's nothing like the constant barrage she'll get if she immerses herself in mainstream media.
Back to the movies, I said, "I never said you couldn't watch any PG-13 movies. I said that even when you are 13, it won't mean you can watch all PG-13 movies. I'm willing to consider them on a case by case basis. What movies have your friends seen that you want to see?"
We went back and forth for a while, her insisting that she just wanted to be able to watch them, and me saying that isn't going to be able to, even when she's 13 (or 14 for that matter).
Finally she said, "I've heard The Proposal is funny."
I remember watching The Proposal and I actually remember thinking that it was surprisingly clean. So it will probably be on our Netflix list soon.
She also mentioned Psych, and with any of those detective shows there's some inappropriate crimes, but we've watched a few together. I liked this exchange in episode two from this season:
Gus said, "They weren't even married. Why would they be trying to get pregnant?"Of course Psych-guy immediately corrected him. But that is life, right? Most people do think that marriage isn't a prerequisite to having children, but I liked that the less-mainstream viewpoint was expressed.
We recently had a "Fail" with this whole experiment. I remembered loving 27 Dresses, and thought it was on the clean side of PG-13. Since I had seen it, I didn't do my research (PluggedIn is very conservative, but gives a complete run down of violence, cursing, and other mature themes in movies so that I can make my own decision). When there had already been a couple of sexual comments and not-so-mild swear-words within the first 15 minutes or so, Terry was giving me looks. I reevaluated my decision, and we sent Amanda to bed, and she was fine with it. Terry and I enjoyed it thoroughly -- being quite over the age of 13.
So -- I'll send it back to you. What TV shows and movies do you watch with your tweens and teens? Or if you don't have tweens and teens, which movies and shows have you seen that would be appropriate to share?