I'm an ENTJ. Actually, that particular description I linked to included some interesting things that I hadn't heard before. I love personality stuff. Myers-Briggs, temprament studies, birth order, you name it--I like it. I posted my kudos about The Birth Order Book in my review last week. One quality that many firstborns share is that we are perfectionists. That's not me. Yes, I'm a high-achiever, but in some weird warped way, I'm also pretty lazy, and subscribe to the "why go for the A when the assignment is just pass/fail" theory for most things in my life. I didn't make straight A's in school, or even strive for A's. I was more a "B will do" sort of student. Honestly, that mentality has been good for me. It allows me to do things that I wouldn't normally do if I couldn't achieve excellence.
For example, I invite people into my home in its pretty much normal state. Yes, I run the vacuum and brush the toilet bowl and make sure that the kitchen is fairly presentable and the toys are sort of contained, but my normal life includes some crumbs under the table and some dog hair in the corners and even dirty dishes, and lots of piles (of books, mail, newspapers, magazines etc.). Don't you wanna come over now? But seriously, I am glad that my attitude allows me to be content with that, because since I am not, nor will I ever be, a neat freak, if I waited for everything to be perfect in my home, I would not ever be able to open the doors to someone new. Someone came to lunch yesterday, in fact, who has only seen my home when she's dropped off or picked up her daughter. There's no telling what it looked like then, but now she's coming for a planned lunch date. I did use the excuse to do some organizing/putting away that probably should've been done already, and I did mop the kitchen floor (which again, doesn't happen as much as it should), but things weren't perfect. I hope that doesn't show a lack of respect for her. I've been told it sets people at ease, and I hope that's true. So, I give myself an A for making the effort of inviting her over. But lovely surroundings might earn me a C--just passing (or maybe a B since I did make an effort). And I kept it simple--just a salad (but a tasty one that she did enjoy), but nothing else, so maybe that gives me a B.
I do have a few regrets about things that I wish I had put more effort into, so when I see someone who strives for excellence, it sort of puts me in awe. A friend of mine (who is nameless and linkless by choice), has started a blog. It's not listed and she's only told a couple of people about it, I think. She wants it to be private. But she still publishes it with excellence. She links to other blogs, she adds lovely pictures, she asks questions. It's wonderful. And she's not doing it with excellence in order to grow her readership, or impress someone, or get 15 comments on a post, or cause someone to link to her. I guess she does it that way because that is who she is.
I think she's a first born. . . .
Do you always try to earn the A, or do you go for a passing grade at times? In what areas do you strive for excellence and where do you let things go? Are you failing in any subjects right now? What can you do to bring up your grade?
Also, if you've been typed (in any type of personality test), and you think it's accurate, I'd love to hear it. You can label yourself when you comment if you like so that we can all get to know each other better.